March 2012
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“Shut Up, That’s Why” – A Follow-Up →
Natalie Reed does it again. Excerpted from her article:
Can’t we just get along? Can’t we agree to disagree? Neither of us can prove our side with 100% certainty, so there’s no point in even having this discussion. Can’t we just live and let live?
Well… yeah… like I mentioned earlier, this could be a beautiful world if it worked that way. But it doesn’t.
The truth is, those of us who are...
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Anonymous asked: why are you so beautiful?
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Anonymous asked: does the fetishization of trans people ever bother you? what about transvestitism fetish subculture? do you consider those to be equally as damaging?
February 2012
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Transgender Miseducation →
Ira Gray makes some EXCELLENT points in this article denouncing a monolithic “trans* narrative”. Excerpted from his HuffPo article:
If the people who claim to accept and affirm us are also unwilling to listen to our experiences and recognize that the world is full of people who have feelings and lives that they will never know, they were never truly our allies in the first place. If...
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Thank you for clearing that up for me! I've see...
lavenderpanda:
You’re very welcome! :)
It’s also important to remember that marginalized and oppressed groups are allowed to express their anger and it is NOT okay for the majority (in this case, cis people) to police that expression. I completely understand why some trans* people might hate cis people period. That hatred and anger doesn’t stem from nothing. CAMAB trans* people, especially PoC,...
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“Go after her. Fuck, don’t sit there and wait for her to call, go after her...”
– Harvey Milk (via cocainebrunch)
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Twelve Things You Were Not Taught in School About... →
tarariot:
tokillahumblebee:
You are (by default) creative.
Creative thinking takes work.
You must go through the motions of being creative.
Your brain is not a computer.
There is no one right answer.
Never stop with your first good idea.
Expect the experts to be negative.
Trust your instincts.
There is no such thing as failure.
You do not see things as they are; you see them as you...
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“1. Abandon the idea that you are ever going to finish. Lose track of the 400...”
– John Steinbeck on “how to keep from going nuts” while writing.
From Paris Review - The Art of Fiction No. 45.
via openculture which also has a great video of Steinbeck’s 1962 acceptance speech for the Nobel Prize for Literature.
(via kenyatta)
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Lt. Potter and Sexual Harassment
jephjacques:
I was originally going to go in a completely different direction with the Station/Lt. Potter conflict. My first idea was that she’d take the shares, cash them out, be ecstatic about her sudden wealth, and get drunk as hell, which would no doubt lead to hijinks of some kind at the party.
But the more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I got with that idea. Station’s offer...
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“Intersectionality is not optional. It is not something you can take off and put...”
– Intersectionality Is Not Optional (via satifice)
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thingsthatverbme asked: So I just came upon the cleverbot clone idea and it is an amazing amazing idea. Can I help out? I want this to exist!
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Parents and Coming Out
fuckyeahftms:
Over the last couple days there’s been a few posts in my feed about coming out to parents and unfortunately getting some negative reactions. When I told my mom I took her to my favorite restaurant/bar because 1) She likes it there 2) I needed a beer or two to get it out 3) We arrived there together so she couldn’t just walk away from the conversation, and 4) I thought (ha) that...
Alpha Boy Adisson: I was Just Struck by an... →
femmeprincessbrat:
iamgrey:
You all know how cleverbot works, right? It’s a chat bot that utilizes user input as material for chats. It “learns” appropriate responses based on user interactions well enough to fool a human being into thinking another human being is on the other end of the conversation. In…
That’s not how cleverbot works. It just gives you responses from other people using...
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Trans-bashing in feminism – as constructive as... →
Robbie Vane makes some great points about the problems with cissexism/transphobia in the feminist community. Excerpted from their article:
You cannot shout about how you are smashing the patriarchy and demanding respect for your gender whilst kicking down at somebody fighting for their own gender to be validated and respected. That is not equality, it is hypocrisy. If you truly do not believe...
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Ask Matt: Why Do We Mistreat Our Allies? « Matt... →
yukib1t:
I have seen allies torn to shreds over a simple misstep or slip of the tongue. I have seen allies dismissed out of hand because they asked a simple question, made an innocent assumption, or misunderstood what someone was talking about. I have seen them belittled or mocked for not knowing everything there is to know about one person’s trans experience (because not everyone’s...
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Autostraddle — This Transphobic UK Ad Will Enrage,... →
transgenderexpress:
I shouldn’t be surprised by blatant transphobia and transmisogyny on television by now. The past year alone has brought us an SNL skit mocking Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), aninvasive and judgmental Frontline ”documentary” on trans* youth, drummed-up controversy over Chaz Bono’s appearance on Dancing With the Stars, and ABC’s Work It. At this point, I really should...
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What do you do with a vile advertisement? →
David Allen Green wrote an excellent article about Paddy Power’s cissexist ad. Excerpted below:
Paddy Power may not have thought they were promoting bullying; they may well have been “only joking”. But for them to seek some commercial advantage by stoking an already hostile environment for trans people was a vile and shameful exercise. Trans people surely have enough to put up...
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Anonymous asked: um not that douchey anon, but I...
148km:
Nonhuman Identity: A Guide to Otherkin, Theriantropes and Other Nonhumans for the Social Justice Community
That was going around a couple months ago and is probably still applicable for general knowledge. Gonna take this opportunity to remind everyone that you really shouldn’t have to “get” something in order to abstain from being a belligerent douchebag about it.
Bolded for emphasis.
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“The slaves are taught that petitions or elections, or lobbying for this or that...”
– Larken Rose (via liberationfrequency)
What even is to be civilized.
(via scarlet—-skyline)
to be “civilized” is to act according to how your colonizers want you to. in other words, to grovel at rich white mens feet and let them keep their boot on your neck.
(via baddominicana)
Whoa. WHOA. We...
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Coming Out (Part Three Of Four): When I Actually... →
Natalie Reed keeps hitting hard. My childhood story is very similar to hers. Excerpted from her blog:
In childhood I knew that I was different from other kids, and from other boys, since I first was able to articulate a concept of difference. But there were lots of things that were different about me, and my head was always cluttered with a thousand concepts, and a thousand means of iterating...
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“Trans people are told by the law, state agencies, private discriminators, and...”
– Dean Spade, Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law, p 41
I mean, basically, yeah.
(via funkyfest)
Read this three times through for maximum benefit.
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Do not call me "man", "dude" or "bro".
kiriamaya:
I realize that a lot of people have come to think of them as non-gendered colloquialisms, but they are still obviously rooted in maleness, and thus I don’t want them attributed to me.
Please and thank you.
Or mate or lad or any other designator that has a history of association with men.
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Coming Out (Part Two Of Four): Spooking,... →
Natalie Reed has another excellent post. Her articles are long, but worth the read!
Excerpted from her blog:
One of the many problematic aspects of treating gay and lesbian (mostly just gay) experiences and narratives as the archetype against which all queer experience is measured is how it causes particular models and tropes of queer lives to be applied indiscriminately across the many varying...
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I really hate the phrases "Well you have a right...
deliciouskaek:
todiedreaming:
Nah, nigga.
I have a right to complain when I go to Wendy’s and they get my order wrong.
I’m entitled to my opinion when people ask me whether or not I think Beyonce uses lace fronts or Malaysian weave.
I am not complaining or simply stating my opinion when talking the racism.
I am talking about my rights as a human to not be persecuted and exploited.
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I was Just Struck by an Interesting Idea
You all know how cleverbot works, right? It’s a chat bot that utilizes user input as material for chats. It “learns” appropriate responses based on user interactions well enough to fool a human being into thinking another human being is on the other end of the conversation. In a sense, another human being is on the other end, just not in real time.
ANYWAY. What if we had a clone...
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A Quick Vent
ahousingjourney:
When I take a stand about issues of gender, it isn’t about, “politics.” There isn’t some secret, invisible party line I’m adhering to. When I say, “I find that phrase problematic / misogynistic / transphobic,” it’s not because like the sound of my own voice (or the clacking of my keyboard). If I suggest a different phrase for someone to use, it’s not that I’m ceaselessly...
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Am I allowed to use this word to describe myself?
jonathan-cunningham:
iamateenagefeminist:
1. Has this word been used against a specific group of people in the past or is it being used against a specific group of people in the present?
If no then you are allowed to use that word to describe yourself.
If yes then move onto question two
2. Are you a part of the group the word has been used against?
If yes then you are allowed to use that...
thiefofwords asked: You mean I'm not alone in this? I always thought I was... The answer to the question 'has anyone else experienced an increase in dysphoria as they come to terms with their trans*ness' is YES. My dysphoria has definitely gotten worse as I've come to terms with my trans* identity over the past several months - it's becoming a real problem. [I'm grateful, though, that at...
Anonymous asked: Hey, I was just wondering, as you seem to have grown as a person or something recently. IDK how to say it, but it's a compliment. Anyway, do you still ID as an androgyne, and what pronouns do you prefer now? I can't remember your pronouns, anyway, and refer to you in my head with they/them. I think of most people as they/them, anyway.
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“All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is for people of good conscience to remain...”
– Thomas Jefferson (via reformparty)
Jefferson is my second favorite founding father.
(via jonathan-cunningham)
478) I take correctly gendered insults as...
And then point out how a gendered insult can actually be extremely sexist and is still inappropriate.
fyeahcarlsagan:
http://carlsaganseyebrows.tumblr.com/ is up and running! I’ll need submissions and recommendations if I’m going to keep it running though!
[Submission from deadpanawesome]
Earthlings take note.
I strongly condone and encourage submitting photos of Sir Carl Sagan’s eyebrows to this highly professional blog.
…I strangely have an urge to make an apple pie from...
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Bill Maher: transmisogynist →
Fucking hell.
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Silence is Not Support: On Coming Out to Family
alas-mypetticoats:
We all know the story. After months or years of living in heart-wrenching, gut-twisting, mind-numbing dread, of living with this dread that even when buried down will reappear time and time again, each and every time you are confronted with the idea… after months or years (or even weeks, or days - it is a dread as deep as your bones and as long as your limbs, not as long the...
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Grey's Lists of Things
Stressful Things:
Work
Student Loans
Gender
Wedding
extended Family
Friends who are not ‘in the know’
Friends who ARE in the know
Eating correctly
male-pattern fat distribution
Names
Sudden unexpected transphobic/cissexist scenes in movies, even if they’re the tired, cliched trans-panic narratives.
parents
siblings
Coming out
Closets
Not enough clothes
too many...